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The Reflective Mind – that ideal self, the authentic you, the you that is aware that you are making thoughtful decisions.
The Reactive Mind – the protector, instinct, quick decision making, reacts to the stimulus. It runs on a reward system and wants to feel better now.
When we operate from the reactive mode we tend to focus on the short-term. We’re desperate to avoid any pain and conflict – operating from fear, instinct, and stress.
This mode drives us to make choices that seem like a good idea right now… because we get pleasure and avoid pain. However, this leads to avoiding things that are not necessarily in our best interest. We will put off something that makes us anxious or indulge in something that seems to help us to calm down at that moment but not helpful in the long term.
It’s not long after making that short term decision that we start to judge our decision. We get down on our self.
When we meditate we learn to become more aware of that inner critic voice, the inner parent – that voice is always seems disappointed in you. Anything with an attitude of criticism tends to push us back to that reactive mode.
What we need is a “buddy”… we need to befriend ourselves… and that is why I think that one of the most important elements of mindfulness and meditation is cultivating self-compassion.
When mindfulness is practiced in a very reflective way, it significantly increases our self-compassion. It changes our relationship to our self – because we start to let go of the judgment and blame and start to see the situation with more clarity.
I hope this helps!
From time to time people ask me if I use guided meditations, meditation timers, and other “brain game” apps. While I don’t use them often, I think they’re super helpful in finding your practice – especially in the beginning. Guided meditations are great for people (like me) that need to be frequently re-directed back to the object of our attention. For these people, there’s not enough stimulation coming in to keep them interested enough to want to stay with the practice – so they give up meditating entirely.
Guided meditations help increase the activity by using thought skillfully (instead of letting the thoughts use you). iTunes has lots of different options available for meditation timers and there are so many free timers. Here are a few apps that I use the most.
“Realize that this very body, with its aches and it pleasures… is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.” – Pema Chodron
I hope you enjoy this free 2o minute guided “body scan” meditation that I created for you to help you improve your body awareness – helping you shift your internal default setting from REACTING all the time – to more of a REFLECTIVE perspective. Practicing “Feel” on a regular basis helps our mind slow down and become more relaxed in the body – so we can focus easier. It shifts our attention away from our worries of the day and thoughts about the past and the future. It dissolves physical stress and emotions that may be trapped within the body. It trains our attention to feel what’s really going on – in this moment – in our body.
So… “Don’t Think. Feel.” – Bruce Lee
I hope this helps!
Peace IN. – Andy
“Don’t think. Feel.” – Bruce Lee
Meditate twice a day – for ten minutes – Monday through Friday, 5 days a week. Take the weekend off.
GOOD NEWS: Yoga and Shavasana count as a meditation, so come to yoga with us at STIL STUDIO!
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